lying, cheating & stealing.

don't say i never gave you anything.
it's 2008 & i'm wondering why the on-going trend of "home wrecking" is still er, on going. i mean, have any of you read He's Just Not That Into You? there is a WHOLE FREAKIN' CHAPTER on how to avoid being "that girl" (a.k.a. the girl who goes after men who are in relationships/married).

i suppose people have to learn their lessons on their own clocks. which is fair but damn -- this is a toughy. & the only reason why i'm really posting about this is because i've been on both sides of this death match.

i've been "that girl". i am willing to admit that around January through maybe April of last year i was interested only in guys who had girlfriends. i really don't know what the motivation was. it's hard for a young woman -- after hearing the word "yes" since birth & getting everything her heart desired -- to reach 18 or 19 & not receive any reciprocated love from the young man she admires. & me, being the naive brat that i was, i set my sights on sabotaging a particular young man's relationship in hopes of later becoming his girlfriend (DUMBDUMBDUMB!).

the keyword here is naive but moreover: ignorance. i had built my bridges wayyy to steeply & no one was really around to pull me back from the mess i had gotten myself into. i thought i was wayyy more intelligent than what i was (at the time). & in the end, the only one who was really hurt was me.

i will also admit there is something very alluring about any & all things forbidden. you tell a child "stay away from the stove, it's hot. i just got done cooking" & chances are -- they'll burn themselves. the same is true in this case. & as alluring as it all may seem: IT'S NOT WORTH IT. if you ended up feeling as hurt & used & down right stupid as i did -- IT IS TOTALLY, 110% NOT WORTH IT.

there are much better things a young woman could be doing with her time.

karma came later than sooner to kick my ass. anyone can get over anything. i really do believe that all humans are inherently intelligent, strong & good. but because i am being honest, i have to say that watching someone else giggle at all the hard work you've put into a relationship really hurts. it's a really big slap in the face to watch a girl (even a little bit) try to cross that line. EVEN IF YOU'VE DONE IT YOURSELF.

now we're merging into the cheating lane. YES! (no :().
of course it is two different things if:
1) someone is trying to push up on your boyfriend with no reciprocation from him.
AND
2) someone is trying to push up on your boyfriend & he entertains the idea.

two completely different things which i hope you already knew. & one must be careful in deciding which is which. my friend jaye made the good point of explaining to me that when someone cheats in a relationship, it ALWAYS comes out. either before they've done it, in the process (ha) or after the relationship has ended. but most girls don't have any problems with their boyfriends cheating (or trying to) until they go out looking for it.

one of my favorite quotes is by Henry L. Stimson & it was he who said:

"The only way to make a man trustworthy is to trust him; and the surest way to make him untrustworthy is to distrust him and show your distrust.”
think about it.